You’re feeling good about yourself. You’ve been working on your image, your body and you have a brand new outlook on life. Positivity and happiness radiate off of you in waves. But wait, where are all the great guys? Shouldn’t they be ringing your doorbell and asking you out?
In the world, you have to know where to meet the guys. Beauty is worthless if none can appreciate it. Its like having the most interesting story in the world to tell, but no one to tell it to. If you’re a brand new person and ready to hit the dating scene, you have to be at the dating scene.
Too many women go to bars and clubs to meet men. Listen ladies, those are places you go to for a good time and maybe a hook up. If you’re looking for a quality man, you can’t hang out at places where people go to get drunk and rub against each other. I’m not saying that there are no good quality men at bars and clubs but even you have to admit that separating a good guy from the jerks at a club is horribly difficult and in a place where you can’t even hold proper conversation, it is nigh impossible.
But fret not, there are many better places you can meet and interact with men. First off, take a look at what affiliations you have. Are you involved in some sort of social club? You should have some sort of social activity that allows you to meet people.
Most women don’t realize that the best place to meet men is at a place where they carry out their hobbies. Any recreational class offers an opportunity to meet men who are interested in the same things you are. This gives you the chance to meet a partner who shares the same passions you do and will make forging a relationship that much easier.
Another place you can go to meet men is church. But be warned! Just because he is a man of Christ doesn’t mean he is not a man. Men at church all have human personalities like any men elsewhere. Don’t assume that he is a ‘good’ man from the outset. Spend the time to get to know him and learn what it is that makes him who he is. Don’t jump into a relationship too fast! It will only lead to misunderstanding and hurt. The upside of church is that there are men who go there to look for a partner and are more likely to be looking for women of quality.
Libraries are another great place to meet men. Though most men you meet there will be more studious, it does not mean they are not adventurous or outgoing. Many fine men enjoy works of literature and can be found perusing books at libraries. Take a chance and don’t be afraid to approach a man and strike up a conversation.
Last but not least, ask your friends! Dating a friend of a friend is advantageous due to the fact that you can know more about him just by asking your friends. Also your friends will have background information and a knowledge base of their likes, dislikes and a general idea of how they are. A lot of your work is done for you and will make it easier for you to move things forward. Just remember that after the initial phase is over, you’re going to have to put in the work to figure him out. No one likes to be the one in the middle.
If you are really lost or your social life is for some reason not going very well, try online dating. It will take more wading through to find a decent guy but the advantage there is you have more time to pick and choose and usually, all their information is displayed on their profiles so it’ll help you make a more informed decision.
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